How can you make changes to your nutrition if your partner doesn’t want to follow along?
First, let me be clear that if you are trying to make lifestyle changes, it’s vital to have support from your close family and friends. This article is not about how to navigate an unhealthy relationship where one person is trying to improve their life and the other is holding them back through negativity and lack of support. This article is about finding ways to achieve two different goals as a couple in a loving way.
My husband and I love cooking dinner together. He loves flavor. I eat for function. He is not trying to make major changes to his weight. I’m actively working on a lean, muscle popping body composition.
Even though I weigh and track my food, we still manage to cook and eat together.
The biggest challenge is controlling the amount of fat.
Another clarification (because nutrition information has become so convoluted). Fat isn’t bad for you. It’s great for you! It’s very energy dense meaning a small amount packs a lot of calories.
For reference, a moderately active woman should be eating about 4-6 servings of fat per day. A serving of fat is one tablespoon of olive oil or one tablespoon of peanut butter. What does that look like? About the size of your thumb. Not a lot!
This means we have to find recipes that are modular, customizable and work well with adding in additional fat (aka flavor) for one side of the table.
One of our standard dinner nights is pasta and sauce, most often spaghetti Bolognese. Here’s how it goes at Casa Lyons.
The results: my version is roughly 414 calories; 41C, 16F, 25P. My husband’s version is 760 calories; 68C, 35F, 41P.
We have found ways to cook as a couple, but eat differently with everything from tacos, tostadas and enchiladas to shepherd's pie and even lasagne.
Sometimes you want to change, but your partner doesn’t need or want to follow the same path. When it comes to changing your nutrition, having a supportive environment is essential. The great news is that you can collaborate in the kitchen so that each person meets their needs while enjoying the moment together.